The business of balance
Bee Talk Buzz, by Vicki Kallman, a Queen Bee
“It is the New Year and I want to have more work/home balance. I am tired of feeling guilty for taking time off from work…or feeling guilty for spending too much time there. There are just not enough hours in the day to get it all done. By 10PM, I am completely drained and sadly, I feel my important relationships are suffering. Even the relationship with myself is taking a direct hit. Trying to be Superwoman is not working! So…. What can I do? Big changes seem too daunting. What little changes can I make to have more balance in my life and feel good, again?”
Cheri and I hear this all the time with our clients when they are emotionally drained and want more joy and fulfillment. Working ladies and stay at home Moms are both saying the same thing. Everyone seems to be doing too much; stressed and running on empty.
As fitness and health professionals, I believe we all know being emotionally well and balanced is the key to better health, great relationships, and success in your business/job.
So what can you do? Cheri and I have researched this topic extensively. Along with teaching our emotional wellness techniques, we have supported men and women with asking them what they really want and what’s most important to them? Once we have the information, we teach them one critical balancing tip!
The biggest tip we give them to have balance at work and home is to start saying, NO!
Now what do I say “No” to? Since I had trouble saying NO, a good friend said to me once. “If someone is asking you to do something that doesn’t fill you up or give you joy say, NO. If that is too hard to do right off the bat then say “Let me think about it.”
I was a “Yes” button pusher before I really researched the time, commitment involved and the amount of joy or fulfillment received from taking on their request! Saying, let me think about it, gave me time to prioritize my life and know what is most important to me. Then I could be honest with myself and say NO. Saying, No, may not be easy for you because you may feel obligated or guilty, which can cloud your answer. Guilt is a powerful emotion created from feeling of not good enough and needing approval. Years ago, I learned feeling guilty gives you permission to do it again. So… How is that working for you?
For the next 30 days, prioritize what is important to you and use this powerful tip of saying NO, so you can say YES to more joy, better health, greater relationship, and more success.
Vicki Kallman, Joyologist and Emotional Wellness Expert